22 Sep

Are you in Transition?

Going through transitionCould you be going through a transition? This morning whilst journaling I arrived at an epiphany.
For the last few days, I have felt a bit low. The best way to describe it is having spent months climbing to the top of a mountain, staying there and enjoying the view, I suddenly awoke at the bottom of another mountain. I am reluctant to climb again and I feel deflated. I would rather turn back and go home.
I understood as I wrote that I have come to the end of one journey and I am reluctant to begin the next phase. I also admitted to myself that my reluctance stems from 2 reasons.
1) I want to absolve myself of the responsibility of delivering the picture I have in my mind to the world.
2) I don’t want to go through the stress of climbing like I did previously. I just want to stay and enjoy the view.
Here’s how I got out of it. I recognise now that the last few months have been about gathering the tools and weapons needed for this new phase. I am not the same person, I have grown. I am experienced, mature and equipped to travel this new path.
If you are on the verge of starting something new, don’t stall. Start. You are ready. The last few years/months have been about this new phase. You have gathered all that you need to not only survive but to thrive as well. That picture you have of your future- it is your responsibility to deliver it. Just like it is a mother’s responsibility to bring into the world the baby she is carrying in her womb. No matter how painful labour is, she has to give birth. The last nine months were all about her body stretching and preparing for the process of birthing, emotionally and spiritually she was also being prepared. No one can nurture her child like she can. In the same way, no one can nurture your dream like you can.
Furthermore, this new journey will be nothing like the last. It is not a repetition of past challenges. This is a brand new season for a brand new you to seize. On the subject of repetition, I learned years ago to stop looking back and joining the dots of my previous challenges. Choose instead to see each one as separate and unrelated, yet they all have been sent to train and equip you for where you stand today.

Finally, celebrate the end of the last journey. Mark it so that your spirit, soul, and body recognise that

it is finished. Transition is a phase in itself and time and energy need to be allocated to it.

his morning whilst journaling I arrived at an epiphany.
For the last few days, I have felt a bit low. The best way to describe it is having spent months climbing to the top of a mountain, staying there and enjoying the view, I suddenly awoke at the bottom of another mountain. I am reluctant to climb again and I feel deflated. I would rather turn back and go home.
I understood as I wrote that I have come to the end of one journey and I am reluctant to begin the next phase. I also admitted to myself that my reluctance stems from 2 reasons.
1) I want to absolve myself of the responsibility of delivering the picture I have in my mind to the world.
2) I don’t want to go through the stress of climbing like I did previously. I just want to stay and enjoy the view.
Here’s how I got out of that state of mind:
I recognise now that the last few months have been about gathering the tools and weapons needed for this new phase. I am not the same person, I have grown. I am experienced, mature and equipped to travel this new path.
If you are on the verge of starting something new, don’t stall. Start. You are ready.  If you were not ready you wouldn’t be standing here right now. The last few years/months have been about this new phase. You have gathered all that you need to not only survive but to thrive as well. That picture you have of your future- it is your responsibility to deliver it just like it is a mother’s responsibility to bring into the world the baby she is carrying in her womb. No matter how painful labour is, she has to give birth. The last nine months were all about her body stretching and preparing for the process of birthing, emotionally and spiritually she was also being prepared. No one can nurture her child like she can, in the same way, no one can nurture your dream like you can.
Furthermore, this new journey will be nothing like the last. It is not a repetition of past challenges. This is a brand new season for a brand new you to seize. On the subject of repetition, I learned years ago to stop looking back and joining the dots of my previous challenges. Choose instead to see each one as separate and unrelated, yet they all have been sent to train and equip you for where you stand today.

Finally, celebrate the end of the last journey. Mark it so that your spirit, soul, and body recognise that it is finished. Transition is a phase in itself and time and energy need to be allocated to it.

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23 Jul

Emotions and getting things done 

I will no longer rely on my emotions to lead me.

When a great idea or inspiration shows up, it comes with sufficient emotions to get you started. You must ride on the wave of that decision to start, but not rely on it to carry you all the way.

I received the buzz word, ‘excellence’, and felt this irresistible pull to address all that isn’t excellent in my life and business. I started with a pen and notepad and went round the shop making note of the curtains, signage, decor and all that I wasn’t proud of. I did the same in my home and I’m currently working on me, my habits and proclivities.

The practice of writing a list was liberating on so many levels. I ordered fabric for new curtains and booked in a fitter. I spruced up the shop with new decor while providing more choices for my customers to purchase and bought an outdoor plant for the shop- going with the flow. At home I booked in a handyman, made an appointment with a highly recommended oven cleaner and left a voice message for the garden. The exhilaration spilled into other areas of my life and for the first time in a while, I held the reins of my life and knew I could steer it whichever direction I pleased.

The handyman showed up in my absence and despite schooling my guys and leaving the list on the door of the refrigerator, he left unsure about what needed to be done. The text he sent me said something about my partner not knowing what he was to do. In crossing notes with the said ‘partner,’ it was the handyman that couldn’t do half the things in the list. The gardener did not return my phone call and the reins I had held with confidence days earlier started to feel rather limp in my hands. The oven cleaner did come through like a shining star and I’ll leave his details below should you want a brand new oven, guaranteed.

Three weeks later and I was yet to source another handyman or book a gardener. Not because there are none but because the wave on which the decision was made had been reduced to a ripple too weak to carry me through to the end.

Today, I am exploring ways in which I can keep going, even when I don’t feel like it. One thing I know for sure is that my emotions do not have the responsibility of seeing me through from start to finish, I do. Remember the three states of matter, solid liquid and gas? Emotions are like the gas state of our being. They take up whatever shape the situation happens to be and drift away when the lid is open. Emotions are not reliable.
I have been a student of my own mind for as long as I can remember and it never fails to amaze me what a powerful machine it is- for good or for bad. The mind can create and believe in dreams and cause them to come to pass. It can also give life to nightmares which can come to pass. For nothing is impossible to him who believes.

A scripture I have been meditating on is ‘Now to whom who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his mighty power that is at work within us’. That power is what I’m now drawing on to get things done. It is more powerful than our emotions. It raised Jesus from the dead and it is ours to use.

I say all that to encourage you to tap deeper into yourself, go past your thoughts, beyond your emotions and reach deep down and draw from the strength you have in Christ. This power works for all things from sorting out unruly gardens to finding a life partner.

I hope this has inspired you, follow me on social media @toksaruoture, as I share snippets of my mind and discover what’s going on in yours.

Have a blessed Sunday and a wonderful week ahead!

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